Every woman has a preference when it comes to men. But some of them go beyond these criteria to choose their partner. They are rather attracted to married or in a relationship men and give the impression of looking for twisted and complicated situations in love. Why are these women attracted to inaccessible men?
They juggle between hope, love, dependence, betrayal and broken dreams… This is the lot of women who have tried to seduce a man they love and who does not belong to them, thus living a love story without an outcome. They are called mistresses of married men, but why do these women seek this complicated situation that sometimes makes them suffer.
First we need to understand the problem
Every woman has her own way of loving. Some may fall in love at first sight or fall in love with an unfaithful married man who often seeks to see elsewhere. And this has become one of the most common phenomena. In the case of male infidelity, men associate this double life and this infidelity with a strengthening of their virility because culturally speaking, the more women a man has and an enriched sexuality, the more virile he will appear, sometimes even without feeling guilty about cheating on his partner. Boredom or a drop in libido within the couple can also be the cause of marital infidelity. The cause of adultery in married women is quite different, since they seek above all in extramarital relationships, the affection, tenderness and understanding that they no longer find in their partner and in their life as a couple to be happy. On dating sites or elsewhere, the temptation is great and lovers can meet people, have an affair or an adulterous relationship, using their power of seduction to have sexual relations, even fleeting ones. According to Francesco Albreroni, human beings can fall in love with a person who reminds them of people they loved during childhood. The memory of this lover remains constant. We can thus fall in love with a person who reminds us of our parents or a person adored in the past. We therefore develop a mental image of the ideal partner and the situations that we consider pleasant and exciting. Subsequently, we look for situations that match these criteria.
Why love a married man?
Here again, it is about looking for the seductive and exciting situation. Several factors come into play to explain this phenomenon, even if according to the specialist, women subject to this forbidden love remain psychologically different from each other. However, they can have common behavioral aspects. • Liking danger For some women, a dangerous situation that can be part of their fantasies, would be a stimulation to trigger the feeling of love. The qualities of the beloved man are not really taken into consideration in this situation. It is therefore not necessary for there to be a rapprochement or even affinities between the couple on an intellectual or emotional level.
Search for competition
Competitive love can also be a reason for attraction for a lover who is already in a relationship. Some women need a rival, a threat and an obstacle to be stimulated in love. Sometimes, when this stumbling block disappears, love can also die out. The wife of the beloved man constitutes the obstacle and the rivalry in question. In every love relationship, this triangular love is sought either by the single mistress or by the unfaithful man.
To be in a position of power
The lover, even while living this clandestine and unstable love life, develops a power relationship of mistress v/s spouse. As Machiavellian as it may seem, the simple fact of knowing that she can destroy her lover’s married life and keep her man, gives her this feeling of power and domination over her deceived rival. Added to this, her ability to extract all the information she desires about her married life. Moreover, her bonus lies in the fact that she only enjoys the best moments with her lover since she only sees him sporadically, far from the routine of daily life.
The freedom to not commit
Some women are not looking for commitment in a romantic relationship but rather an open relationship. Being with a married man is an enticing situation for these women who only want to get the best out of the relationship without complicating their lives. Also, they will not need to worry about this man asking them to marry him. The fear of commitment can thus be a reason for this choice of a fleeting relationship that even the unfaithful lover seeks. This man who is not available to form a couple thus proves to be an interesting match for a woman who is not emotionally available to build a romantic relationship, especially since she has no intention of being a homewrecker.
